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thoughts on a new book

6 Jun

Being the huge social science dork that I am, my “fun” summer reading has so far consisted of one book: Red Light: Inside the Sex Industry by Sylvia Plachy and James Ridgeway.

Here it is, in all its glory

With chapter titles such as the sex police, do-it-yourself porn, occupational hazards, and mistress anastasia, I was sure of what I was getting myself into. This is definitely not a book that is afraid of getting dirty (excuse the bad pun), but doesn’t go overboard on the shock-to-your-senses details. It is, in essence, simply realistic. I’m a huge fan of the black and white photos that are scattered throughout the pages, all taken by Sylvia Plachy. While many of them are quite graphic, they don’t feel at all dirty or explicit. In fact, they still manage to maintain a lot of beauty, even when portraying highly sexual scenes that many may find offensive. Most of these photos evoke a sense of voyeurism; it’s as if the reader is able to catch a glimpse of something so private, so intimate, and is able to understand not only what is happening but why it’s happening, how these people are feeling. My favorite is a photograph of a poem, scribbled on what looks like the back of an old envelope. Part of it reads, “Ode to the men at the bar, who hide their scabs within the sheath of their sex, wagging tongues, insisting that the girl is the object, not them. Insane throwaways, they refuse to see.”

Now don’t go interpreting my love of these photographs as this book being strictly artsy fartsy- because it’s not. It’s actually really funny. In the introduction, titled “The Business of Sex”, the authors go into great detail to describe Paulie, a man who often pays for sex. Paulie is a stereotype. “He has thick glasses and wears a rumpled suit and has just arrived from the floor of the New York Stock Exchange” (14). He lives with his mother in the Bronx. And he pays between $100 and $300 a night for sex (depending on how many girls he requests). Paulie gets off on being a man of power- his fantasies include having the women act as “the girl next door, the subservient coquette, the slut, or the mistress” (16). He might have the women kiss each other, but only when he allows it. In his world, “the women’s sexual pleasure- feigned as it may be- is controlled by (him)” (16).

Anyway, enough with the book report. Go read it yourselves!

just in case you were planning on having sex with a soccer player during the World Cup…

27 May

According to the Associated Press, the soccer players competing in the World Cup have been OKed to have sex…

http://www.google.com/hostednews/ap/article/ALeqM5gAy9b14AVEyFQq2JoFIAoL6R9MqgD9FVDIG02

“BUENOS AIRES, Argentina — Soccer and sex are just fine for the World Cup.

That’s the word from Argentina’s team doctor who says players can have sex with their regular partners (and what if they want to try something new, that’s not okay? Damn, I guess I’m out of the running then…) during the monthlong tournament in South Africa.

Dr. Donato Vallani said sex was a part of life.

“The players can have sex with their wives and girlfriends during the World Cup,” he said on Radio Del Plata. “Players are not Martians.”

“But,” he added, “it should not be at 2 a.m. with champagne and Havana cigars.”

(Well doesn’t that just ruin all the fun!)

Hello to all future followers of this blog!

16 May

Welcome, and congratulations. You’ve somehow managed to click your way through the haze of the internet and land on my sex blog. It may have been an accident, but now that you’re here, you really ought to stick around. Now, a few things before we begin.

1. If you’re looking to read about my sex life, keep looking. No really, I do encourage you to keep searching until you find what you’re really looking for. Because that’s not what you’re going to find here.

2. What you will find here is a hub of information and interesting news articles on sex, sexuality, gender roles, sexual health, sex toys, and pretty much anything else that falls under the general umbrella of sex.

3. Got questions? I’ve got answers (I hope)! Please email me at thesexualityblogger@gmail.com if you have any questions you’d like answered, and also remember to tell me whether or not I can post your question on the blog. Your identity will remain anonymous, CIA-style.

4. Take this with a grain of salt. It’s meant to be fun! That being said, I do hope to educate people, so if you find that any of my information is incorrect or offensive, please please PLEASE let me know!

Alright folks, that’s all for now. Let the sex talk begin!

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